Sounds like not being able to play drums is a red herring. The only real problem here is that your wife wants to undertake a major change in the way you both live your lives, and you don't want to do it. You're open to compromise. She's not, saying it's her way or the highway (actually, I guess...
Thanks for posting this. I didn't know that New Beats started out as just a bottom cymbal that could be matched up with anything else. And that New Beat sticker is awesome. That would make a great poster or banner.
Thanks for the heads up. I removed Chops, but I'll probably go back and create another list that includes all the suggestions for stores that aren't really stand-alone, percussion-only, showroom-with-regular-hours drum shops.
Ah, I see now. Google says they have regular, but it looks like they're located inside another, full-line music store, so that's probably the hours of the larger store. Also, it looks like it's vintage only. So I'll take them off the list. This list, anyway.
Wood & Weather looks like an awesome shop. I didn't include them, though, because according to their website they're only open by appointment.
Village Drum and Music is another cool place, but it's not a dedicated drum shop. They sell string instruments and electronics, too.