I'd just make sure it was clean, (no debris or other goop) like I mentioned above with warm water and soap... then assemble and enjoy. They look good to me! (Go a little extra on the chrome to really make it pop)
I blocked the Sweetwater guy. Really annoying. Once, I got a call about 10 minutes after being on the site - kinda creeped me out.
PS: I called on an item once and left my call back number with the salesman. I never entered it on the website that I remember. I am going over now to check.
Sounds like you would be better served by speaking to your wife, and not us. In fact... counseling might be in your future. With you and her being this far apart on a major life decision - nothing good will come without some serious work on your relationship.