What is your budget for cymbals? It's a lot easier to take a subpar kit and make it sound acceptable but it's next to impossible to take cheap cymbals and make them sound good.
With that said, I would keep your eyes open for a good used drum set in your area (Yamaha, Tama, Ludwig, Mapex...
He did insert the "winking face" emoji which does generally denote an inside joke or sarcasm. It was in poor taste but he could have just been being way over the top on purpose. Now, as for the extra $60 in shipping with no tangible explanation or transparency upfront, that's definitely a problem.
I had two excellent transactions this past week. Clowndog sold me a snare which was packed excellently and shipped promptly. 712drummer sold me a cymbal which was packed well, shipped right away and delivered in less than 24hrs. Thank you both for the great experiences!