My thoughts too, and it's especially frustrating to be unable to give two of these cymbals a whirl in live performance. To continue with your analogy, while I can learn a lot more about a woman from talking with her, I ultimately have to go the distance before I know.I'd need to hear them, preferably in a musical context. Otherwise, it's like marrying a girl sight unseen.
The OP to one side, I've been mulling issues along these lines and suspect they're the crux.Decide what type of drummer you want to be and suit the equipment to 'that..
i.e. 'Where your Heart lies is where your gear should be.
Gotta have a Belief System : ) and be 'that' Boy.
I have No problem knowing who I "am" behind the drums : ) (lol)
Then, you move 'past' the (physical) instrument's (it's been decided) themselves, and get to applying yourself to the music in front of you.
Every time every place