Haha!! Thanks guys for the support--part of me would LOVE to do as you suggested, but family situations/dynamics make that pretty near impossible. I mean, I could (obviously) but the fallout from it would be ugly, but believe me, it crosses my mind a LOT!!!Well I would of told her to pound sand many years ago, but that is just me. I can't put up with stuff like that. I would say just show her this pic of my room, and maybe she will think you aren't so sick after all.
Exactly! I could certainly "get by" with just ONE kit, and for over 20 years I did have just 2 kits (only 1 for a while), but drums and music is my hobby/passion and as long as we are paying the bills I am entitled (imho) to spend my disposable income anyway I wish. No offense to those who do, but I don't smoke/drink/gamble/hunt/fish/golf/restore cars/have a boat/etc. It's basically JUST drums for me, and I may as well get what I want when I am still young enough to enjoy myself and enjoy life in general a little bit because God knows, it sure can be super stressful a lot of the time. Drums are my release--I love spending time cleaning/tuning/giving them TLC. It relaxes me--why should I have to apologize for that?Need and Want are two different things.
If I had the space, I'd own 20 drum sets. Why? Because I like them.
You know, sometimes the fallout is worth it though. After that, you never have to deal with this issue again. Next, her focus will be "Did you hear what singleordoubheads said to me? The gall!"Haha!! Thanks guys for the support--part of me would LOVE to do as you suggested, but family situations/dynamics make that pretty near impossible. I mean, I could (obviously) but the fallout from it would be ugly, but believe me, it crosses my mind a LOT!!!
Maybe in a few years when things change a bit in the family I will be in a better position to really say something more forceful--I'm just so SICK of constantly feeling like I have to explain/justify/defend owning ANYTHING. If you don't like it STFU!!!
Exactly right. Having multiple sets of drums (different shell makeup, sizes, tunings) is FUN.I have 4 kits that fill 4 different roles. Could I get away with just one kit? Sure, but where's the fun in that? Instruments are supposed to be a tool to enjoy playing music. I'm sure yours fulfill different needs and/or wants as well. Enjoy those tools!
Yes it absolutely IS!! When I pull any of my kits out that I haven't played/gigged in a while it always feels fresh and gets me excited to play again vs the same old/same old!Exactly right. Having multiple sets of drums (different shell makeup, sizes, tunings) is FUN.
Why is your responsibility to worry about keeping the family peace? Obviously, she's not worried about it or she would hold her tongue, or just be happy for you.For those here with multiple kits, do you ever get negative feedback/comments from family or friends? I ask because I proudly own 6 kits and have had at least 3 at a time since 2006. I have a family member who, for reasons I cannot understand, always has to make comments (when the subject of drums comes up) along the lines of "you don't need all those drums" or "you can only play one set at a time" or, when I joke about getting another kit (I'm not) "if you want more drums you need to get rid of some old ones". Tonight I heard a new one--"you don't need all those little drums"???
Now, we usually get along okay regarding anything BUT drums, but for unknown reasons me owning multiple kits drives her crazy!! Meanwhile HER son (also my age 52) lives alone with no kids but owns FOUR vehicles and has a large basement FULL of HUGE model train displays and I never say one word about it. My drums are MY business and I'd like to rip her a new one but have to bite my tongue to keep family peace. Anyone else here have similar experiences with a family member or friends??
I have guitar player friends who own DOZENS of guitars!! And nobody blinks an eye. In fact a former Band mate would often bring 7-8 guitars to EVERY GIG!! Am I just being over sensitive or is my family member just a jerk??
Not that I've had this experience but maybe just tell her to not worry about it, it doesn't affect her life at all and to mind her own business. Or if this is a relative of your spouses then ask your spouse to say something to her.It's not so much that I "care" per se, but it gets a bit tiresome to always be on "defense" every time this comes up. It's certainly none of hers (or anyone else's) BUSINESS how many drums I own. Yes people can have their opinions but why not zip it once in a while??
I've tried going the "nice" route many times, trying to (calmly) explain WHY I have what I have (again, I shouldn't HAVE to!!) and attempt to explain different configurations/shell-types/sizes/bearing edges/head options/etc, but it always seems to fall on deaf ears. Do I technically NEED 6 kits? Of course not, but I WANT options and work hard for my money which I am then entitled to spend as I see fit!