I think this is the perfect place to have the discussion. It doesn't make sense to speak with people who don't even know how to play an instrument. To them, they may think having more than a 4 piece kit with 2 cymbals and a hi hat is overkill. They may think something that takes up more space than a small corner is too much. They may think having something that makes so much noise and disturbs the whole family is not worth it. But talking it over with people who keep their GAS in check all the way to those who have waaaaaayyyyyy too much gear is good for discussion. As you mention it's all relative, but having the conversation amongst our peers gives us a better perspective on the situation. Like I said in a previous post, after reading other peoples responses I feel that I am riding a fine line of "too much gear". Its good to hear other people's thoughts, especially those who have been in my situation, or worse, and came to the conclusion that they needed to pair back their gear. I'm not ready to start selling all my gear just yet, but maybe in 3-5 years I'll downsize a little bit.One thing is for sure, having a discussion about this on a forum that's at minimum half about acquiring gear is really the worst place to have the discussion. You might as well be handing out 1 hour AA chips in a bar.