I heard interview recently with Taylor Hawkins. He said he’s terrified to go onstage each night, but he’s playing sold out soccer stadiums in front of 100,000 people not a small club.
As for me I always get nervous.
Can't say I get nervous before or during play, but the hard part of the gig is in between sets mingling with the audience. I don't have good social skills and if many friends are there I find the breaks to be awkward.
The only thing that bothers me is my family...and and it hasn't been since the 70's that they sat in front of me. I don't worry about other musicians too much. Its not like I play licks I can't pull off in that situation; I just try to make the band sound good and up to par. I figure I have the gig and they don't!
Same here, SteveB. I haven't really been nervous in a band situation for decades, but my parents showed up for a concert this summer and I was all messed up!
I guess I imagined them thinking that they put up with all the noise for years, and paid for lessons and gear, and THIS day was going to be the test to see if it was all worth it. I don't think they'd heard me play in decades. My dad came up with something nice to say: "I liked the blues song you guys did." HAhaha.
I wouldn't say nervous, I would say psyched or excited. At my annual gig in Maine in the summer where we go, pretty much know everybody
People dance, make requests and I think have a good time, but its summer and they are on vacation....which helps.....alot.
Even if someone you know who is a better drummer than you, does it really matter? They are not likely going to care one way or the other. I know I wouldn't. It is what it is. There all kinds of folks at all different levels. Just enjoy the music, like they probably are.